I think any parent who's juggling kid, work, and family responsibilities will say the same thing when they see this weekend's NY Times Magazine cover story, When Mom and Dad Share It All: Day-um, when am I going to read that?
I just skimmed through it, and it looks fascinating and potentially important, and it looks like the writer Lisa Belkin finally took pains to get beyond the "go to an Ivy League school, marry a banker, quit my job and get a nanny" mom-centric bubble she wrote about in the "Opt Out Revolution."
Two things that jump out: since before they started measuring such things, men have always done half as much "housework" and an even smaller fraction of "childcare," and that's still the case for "modern" parents. And if you want to get the shared parenting thing right, ask the lesbian moms, because they're farther along than anyone else.
Oh, and this, about the importance of context in making shared parenting decisions: "the single-most-predictive factor of how equal a couple will be, Deutsch says, is how equal their friends are."
What else is worth noting? Take a look, and put it in the comments. And soon, maybe we'll have a list of factoids and personal takes that's longer than the original article.
When Mom and Dad Share It All [nyt mag]
2006: Don't harsh on my Opt-Out Revolution!
2004: a looong story on a family fighting for their special needs kid's education
2003: The original Opt Out Revolution article