Why does the kid seriously freak out when I wash her hair? Still? It's been like this for a long time now.
From before she could even sit up, and I had to cradle her head and shoulders in the tub with my forearm, I can count on my one free hand the number of times she hasn't been a petrified, crying mess about it.
Part of it has to be that I am not usually on bath duty, my wife is, and that's gotta account for some of it. And no doubt, at the end of the day, if I'm frustrated by wails of protest, that frustration only compounds the kid's own anxiety.
But rinsing off with cups of water instead of leaning back doesn't help. Using the shower--which the kid's recently come to love, btw, go figure--is less worse, but still bad. the full back & shoulders & neck support wtih constant reassurance as I lean her back into the tub [just barely to her ears, because the ears can be a trigger point] doesn't work, either. The result is nearly always crying and fear of getting water on her face. [Never mind that when she swims, she couldn't really care less about a wet or submerged face.]
So. Is it me? I mean, obviously, it's me, but what should I do? Is there the shampoo rinsing equivalent of The Swaddle, a secret miracle technique that brings instant results? Or am I just doomed to be the cause of her future lifelong fear of dunking machines?