You'd think after two years of being a dad, I'd get used to surprises. I wake up thinking I have something figured out, and then I get blindsided by people's experiences which are diametrically opposite to my own.
I just did a takedown on the Babywise series of parenting advice books, which seemed to me like a clear-cut case of bad, unscientific advice that was being latched onto by well-meaning, desperate parents who wanted to find out how they can raise their kids right. [I'll be the first to grant that "right" has a variety of definitions, but from age 0-2, I'd think there's gotta be a lot of general agreement about a baby's health, developmental milestones, happiness and well-being.]
Anyway, the question: Do you have parenting advice books? More importantly, do you use them? How? Have you found one "right" one? Or is it a combination? Or a phase thing, one's right at one stage, but not later on, for example? Do you, dads, use them differently than your wife/baby mama/husband/parenting counterpart?
Us, we have Brazelton's Touchpoints books, plus the What To Expect and Spock, but those two are really just reference books. Our general usage method was to find ourselves in a recurring sleeping/screaming/eating problem, then we'd go read Brazelton and learn that what we were seeing was common to kids that age. Happens over and over. My wife is better about reading ahead a bit, and then encouraging me to do the same. [Which I do about 60% of the time, and about 1-2 weeks after her. I'm slack that way.]