Here's a tip about talking with gay dads, from DT reader Jeff, who, with his partner Mark, has a year-plus-old daughter Chloe:
After people learn we worked with a surrogate, they typically ask, "Who is the father?" The question offends us, since we are both Chloe's fathers. We gently let them know that such a question is not socially acceptable in this "post-gay" era. "Post-gay" is a fairly new term used by homosexuals who define their identity by something other than their sexual orientation. By the way, gay people ask the question too! This uncomfortable question is something we never considered as we processed the idea of becoming dads.Someone must not have gotten the memo. In their discussion of who--Jann Wenner or Matt Nye--is putting up the DNA for the couple's due-this-summer baby, the social misfits over at Page Six, are all but swabbing the petri dishes of every fertility clinic south of 59th St. I guess that's why it's not called The Emily Post.