OK, sorry to swamp Jason's lingerie buying guide with my somewhat skeptical take on "birth jewelry." I was wrong. Birth jewelry sounds like a lovely idea, a way to commemorate and celebrate the beauty--and hard work and sacrifice--of a woman bringing a new life into your world. Gorgeous. I know MY wife deserves jewelry, and lots of it. The better the better, I say, and I want to give it to her often, not just as a marker of an important occasion, but as a sign of my love, respect, and awe of her as a person, a woman, and a mother. Fine.
But enough about birth jewelry, let's talk about "push presents." Or let's listen as the worldly wise voices of Urbanbaby talk about them: "if you have a c-section, is it a 'cut-gift?'"
One of the tackiest things I have learned about on UB - - "push gifts." I was just thinking, if you have a c-section, is it a "cut-gift?"
* have you heard of the thrust gift...dhs are now asking for equal tackiness
* pouch present, tear token
# Does anyone actually call it that? I got a present from DH when DD was born, but I'd hit him if he called it that. Seems to be a tradition in many Jewish families
* Gift for dc's birth = quite nice. "push gift" or expectation of specific number of karats, not so nice
* Jewish, never heard of it in my family. Read about it in English books.
# It's push Present. And since our anniversary was 2 weeks later, I just got a really super special gift for that.
With #1, the baby was gift enough. With #2 I got a big screen TV! A push present we can all enjoy!!
what's a push present?
# Oh lord...
* won't you buy me a mercedes benz... my friends all got push presents, DH must make amends ;)
# a piece of jewelry to commemorate the birth of your child.
* Right, so what did you get DH to commemorate the birth?
o nothing. we were broke.
A push present is something you expect beforehand.
hey, if you're getting a present, let it be called anything, take it and enjoy it.
we were at a v. westchester dinner party whilst I was pg and one of the women leaned across DH and said to me, "he DOES know about the push gift, doesn't he?" - DH in no way, shape or form knew what the hell she was talking about, but I just smiled and nodded...then he said, "whats that?" she proceeded to elucidate him using her $15k diamond tennis bracelet as an example...the next week he ordered me a cubic zirconia tennis bracelet from ice.com and told me it was my early push gift.
many who discuss this push present want very specific jewlery, not something thoughtful that DH chose to give them
* That just gave me the shivers
What is a "push pressie"?
# a gift for delivering baby - prominent with jews.
* I thought it was southerners.
* i am both -- southern & Jewish -- & don't know anyone who does this
You're not less of a mom if you want (or expect) a push present. You're just a materialistic person who thinks that important life events have to be validated by spending lots of money. And that it's your DH's job to do this.
It's not just for the pushing part ya know...It's for the whole 10 month process. The nausea, the vomiting, the exahustion while you stay home and take care of db (if this is number 2) etc..
* exactly! It's not a push present - it's a THANK YOU WONDERFUL WIFE present for going through the hard road of being PG and everything that entailed. My dad gave my mom one for every one of the 7 she had and that was decades ago.
# One friend got a mercedes, another a 4 carat diamond ring.
# i got a beautiful baby boy as my push present better than anything else i could have wanted or asked for
* yeah, yeah, that is what we tell ourselves. A bauble would have been nice, no?
o nah - already have a ring over 4 carats and a channel set band - anything more is overkill
* you're on the wrong board