August may be a slow month for parenting news [book review contest *cough cough*], which may explain why novelist-married-to-a-novelist Ayelet Waldman falls back on a classic topic in her Salon.com parenting column: unsolicited, belligerent, and judgmental "advice" from other parents on such touchy subjects as breastfeeding, circumcision, cloth diapers, Ferber-izing, stay-at-home moms, basically whatever you're doing wrong as a parent.
The scene of these parental flame wars isn't Urban Baby [for once], but its crunchier West Coast counterpart, the Berkeley Parents Network, and the organic grocery stores of the Bay Area. And the culprits, according to Waldman, are often Attachment Parenting diehards on a mission to save the children of the world from neglect, formula, and Chicken McNuggets.
I feel like I sound like a broken record, but there isn't one mention of a dad in the whole piece. [except for: the BPN does give advice on dealing with "philandering spouses."] Do dads get into Attachment Parenting, and if they do, do they get all in people's faces about their parenting choices? I know we've had our share of formula/circumcision/ cloth diaper flareups here, too, so maybe I shouldn't be too smug, but would this be different if there were more dads involved somewhere in the process? [And I don't mean telling women in coffee shops that "you know, breast is best," although I'm sure hilarity would ensue.]
Mind Your Own Kids [salon, via dt reader JJ]